Controlling your Destiny….
The only thing that stands between you & your destiny, is if you feel that you have limitations. If you begin to doubt yourself, you doubt your ability to make your dreams come true. Your destiny will be waiting for you on the other side of the mist of indecision & self-doubt.
We are not born doubting ourselves or believing that we have limitations. Have you ever watched small children? The are filled with such boundless energy, confidence & curiosity. They are not afraid of failing until someone inadvertently teaches them to be afraid. That someone could be their friends, classmates, teachers, daycare workers or even well meaning parents. Once we learn about the possibility of failure, our destiny becomes limited because we believe we have limited potential, therefore we form our own limited expectations.
In my opinion, failing is NOT failing unless you do not try at all. If one tries something and fails… even many times, it is always a learning experience because then you know what DOESN’T work & you can keep trying & trying until you get it right!
As Theodore Roosevelt said, “Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure.”
You have the ability to re-claim your destiny by envisioning your dreams and goals. You CAN create the life or destiny you dream of .
Did you realize that even Colonel Sander (Kentucky Fried Chicken) faced repeated numbers of rejections before he finally found someone willing to take a chance on his “dream”? He refused to allow other peoples expectations or judgements to determine his destiny.
Remember Albert Einstein, he was labeled as stupid, slow, unable to read, & thus was thought nothing would never become of him. All the time his undiagnosed dyslexia was interfering with his learning, making things three times as difficult for him. He did not listen to, or believe the doubters in his life & he went on with his life to become a great man.
Both of these men refused to allow other peoples expectations or judgements to determine their destiny or define their dreams. They created the destiny they wanted. The destiny they had always dreamed of & pictured in their mind’s eye.
“If you want to be happy, be.” ~ Tolstoy
” God has entrusted me with myself.” ~ Epicteus
From the above quotes, what I feel Tolstoy and Epicteus were trying to say, is that you can be happy if you want to be. It is your choice. You are the one who decides to be happy by focusing on the present – living, loving & achieving in the present. Focus on being happy & being the person you want to b. That way you are creating your own destiny.
Everyday you are alive is a miracle – a priceless gift that is yours to squander or mold into a future you desire. Spend less time worrying about things you cannot change, regretting choices you made instead of spending time appreciating what you have & the possibilities of creating & achieving even more.
To become fearless, you must spend less time being fearful or depressed. You must try to fill your days with more time being joyous & doing the things you wish to do. If you can do that, then you will be able to spend the majority of your time living your dream & less time getting ready to live your Life.
“Dost though love life?
Thy do not squander time, for that’s the stuff life is made of.”
~ Benjamin Franklin
“Many people die with their music still in them.
Why is this so?
Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live….
in stead of actually living.”
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes.
The act of Doing is the cornerstone of creating your own, personal destiny. True joy is in the dreaming, imagining, considering & conceiving what you want. The actions you take produce the outcome of your destiny.
“Life is not lost by dying;
life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day,
in all the thousand small uncaring ways.”
~ Stephen Vincent Benet
“Time is the most valuable thing a man can spend.”
Imagine your destiny. Focus on what your dreams are, then create your destiny with Pride. Others may try to downplay or ruin your dream by trying to steal or belittle your pride. You must have passion, resolve, dreams innovations & last but not least…. ethics.
“Passion is the fire that energizes your life,
and without passion, without fire, without energy,
your true destiny will always be unfulfilled.
It will die of indecision, inaction and indifferences.”
~ Rex Bennett
When you couple talent, dedication, hard work & passion for what you are doing, your success will arrive sooner than you think. You must have passion connected with your dream. Passion, as you well know, is that inner force that drives you to be the very best that you can be. Never let anyone steal your passion for life!
For example, one of my good friends has a passion, dedication & talent for making beautiful dolls. She spends hours on end to ensure she has every detail perfect, so the doll actually looks real! She doesn’t even seem to mind the hard work necessary to do such a great job, because she has that inner passion guiding her towards her dream, her destiny.
Another example could be myself. People ask me all the time why I won’t get an Administrators degree or a Phd. so that I can “move up” in the education field. The problem is, I don’t want to move up, I love what I do, working with children on such an intimate level. I would have to give up my wonderful experiences with the children to become the disciplinarian. I love the hugs I get walking down the hall, the cards they make for me, & the fact that every time they see me somewhere (especially out in public – which drives my kids crazy) they yell out my name & run up and grab me & to give me a big hug. (True, their parent’s kinda wonder what’s going on if they don’t personally know me.. LOL)
My passion is helping children – especially those that everyone seems to have given up on, or who are going through a rough time in their life & need an advocate to intervene on their behalf in order to help them out.
Whatever it is that you decide to do in life, even if it is just a temporary job until you are able to actually begin to accomplish your dream, do it with passion & enthusiasm …. even if it is something you have to do, rather than want to do.
Wherever you go, go with all your heart”
What if you have no idea what your passion is or how to tap into it?
If you have a goal or a dream, approach it & everything you do, do with a good attitude…
If you do this, your passion will come & find you.
“Without passion, the fire of your life dies.”
~ Rex Bennett
“Life is a daring adventure or nothing at all.”
~ Helen Keller
“Passion is like genius, a miracle.”
“They say that death kills you,
But death doesn’t kill you
Boredom and indifference kills you.
“Nothing great in the world has ever been accomplished
“There is no end.
There is no beginning.
There is only the infinite passion
great passion can elevate the soul
to great things.”
“Every man dies. Not every man really lives.”
~ William Wallace in the movie Braveheart
“What is passion? …
Most of your being is at best, unlived.
In passion the body & the spirit seek self-expression…
The more extreme & the more expressed passion is,
the more unbearable does life seem with out it,
we are partly dead, & that soon,
come what may,
we will be wholly so.”
These are some pictures I took a few years back. It’s here in Georgia, but not highly advertised. It was once a beautiful, grand, Victorian looking manor house. It was partially burned many, many, years ago after there was a murder committed in the house. I thought it odd that the actual room where the murder took place, was not entirely burned. You could still see a faint outline of the blood stains on the floor.
The gardens were, and still are, as far as I know, intricately designed and manicured. They were beautiful enough by far to have been found behind one of the European castles.